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anti-slut rant
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Public: Anyone can view. I had an interesting "discussion" with a newbie to Sin.
This gentleman(?) remarked, "wow!! There are alot of slutty men and woman here."
Never one to back down from a debate I replied, "You couldn't be further from the truth.
In my opinion a slut is someone with no or little self-confidence, who uses there sexuality to get attention. Perhaps because they want to be fit in, be accepted, or fill an innner void. Look around...these people don't need to do that. The vast majority are full of inner awareness. They do this because they have the self-esteem to do it and not care what anyone thinks. This community is about respect...of self and each other."
A dull look pasted over my listener's face.
I walk over and hugged, kissed,danced and laughed with my friends.
more to that thought...
While I have spoken of the event to others and suggested they come I do say...
"Only attend if you think you can handle it. Respect other people's attire and space. While we all like to watch the other talent...NO gawking. NO rude remarks. Touch only by invitation. Back off immediatly when asked. For regulars this area is sacred...while the door is open to everyone, it will be closed if you don't conduct yourself properly."
Simple enough I think...but that's just my opinion.
:K)
(hope everyone is surviving the heat)
These are exceptions to the atmosphere of the nite.
Sin is amazing and the vast majority of people are respectful. You won't find a better vibe any other venue where gawking and cattiness run rampant.
I would and have encouraged anyone to come and challenge their perceptions....you'll most definitely like it, if you are at all curious. ;)
I think the "sluttiness in the fetish community" theory stems from peoples' misunderstanding about it. As we all know, people fear what they don't understand. Speaking as someone who has never been to a fetish club before, but would like to go at some point, reading these anecdotes about groping and grinding make me think twice about going. Mind you, I'm sure as with every group, the majority follow the rules, am I right?
Heck, I think every one would appreciate some sort of 'coad of conduct'. But in my time at Sin, most uncomfortable situations have occured outside the venue, which I guess is to be expected.
On the orrigional topic, one of the things that I've noticed is that some people cross the line of sexual openess and almost become preditory. One person, who shall remain name less, always makes me feel uncomfortable simply by what she says and the way she holds her self, as opposed to what she does or wears.
Wonderful idea.
It is becoming ridiculous at times. As soon as i hit the dance floor I had several unwanted gropes and grinds. If I see people who are beautiful, I'll tell them in a polite manner. It is a compliment and not a suggestion. I have had to rescue and been rescued by friends a few times. The overall atmosphere is safe, I know that if I have a problem I can tell anyone(whether I know them or not) and it'll be taken care of.
Putting codes of conduct in high traffic areas would be nice.
I think alot of the 'old school crowd' would appreciate seeing it.
However the thing which bothers me the most is that attitudes are slipping (I think because of so much inexperienced "new blood" recently). In years past, I was never GROPED by a complete stranger, or followed/stalked, etc. There seems to be a growing lack of fetish night etiquette. I would like to recommend a "rules of conduct" posted at SinCity - I'll talk to Isaac & Aaron about this.
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Now that's a "tourist" if I've ever heard of one. One thing you learn when meeting the fetish community is "slutty attire" does not imply a "slutty person". Heck, everyone looks "slutty" to a certain degree, but that's just what they're wearing (heh, or not wearing). The whole point of fetish events (in my opinion) is the rush of looking and feeling sexy among other sexy people without having to have actual sex. It's not about teasing, and it's not entirely about sex - it's about confidence, self-expression, respect... and having a good time in an environment where you don't feel threatened or out of place!
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