my hair is impossible too!..naturally i have super thick hair, that curls and frizzes when theres any moisture in the air, and i mean living in bc, it happens a lot. So i ended up getting synth dreads over the summer..and that helped ..those were a very no fuss apraoch to dreads and when i took them out after two months a ton of my hair went with it..lol..so now my hair is a lot thinner and more manageable..it really changed the consistancy of it..also if u go to the hairdresser, i found u can ask them to thin it..and they use this apparatus that takes out a bunch of troublseome hair as well..lastly..if u find yer hair is frizzy and dry ..i take a little bit of conditioner and rub it between my palms after a shower, then blowdry..It makes a big difference in keeping it healthy and stylish.
sorry about the novel..i hope some of this info helps..